what kind of people can’t tolerate a bit of feminism/truth on their dash once a week?
If a young woman in middle school or high school hangs up a poster of Barack Obama in her room, this is seen as acceptable. It’s fine for women to admire men and want to be like them.
If a young man (the same age) hangs up a poster of Hillary Clinton in his room, this is seen as odd (maybe even troubling, is he gay? Oh no!).
Society tells us young men can’t think of women as role models, unless they’re a family member, whereas young women can admire and seek to emulate anyone, regardless of gender.
If you’re a young man, and if you have a poster on your wall with a woman, she had better be half-naked in a bikini, even if the Ronald Reagan or Gen. Patton poster next to it obviously features the man fully-clothed.
Young men are not to taught to think of women as role models. They are taught to think of them as either family members or sexual objects. There is no other category presented.”
I’m stuck between wanting:
1. A long lasting relationship with my soulmate who supports me and protects me and is my partner and we are completely bad ass together and in love
2. Wanting to have casual sex and rip out the heart of everyone person I meet
3. Being independent and having a loyal dog while I’m married to my career
(while other people have been there since they turned 16. and I’m turning 27 next month)
what’s really helping me are texts like "Leben mit 30" by Teresa Bücker of Editon F or "Things I’ve learned since I turned 30" by Emily Schuman of Cupcakes & Cashmere. they make living a mostly adult life (as in being responsible for things and making informed choices and stuff) isn’t as scary as it seems from my prolonged-teenagehood viewpoint.